My dearest ladies,
Have you ever got into an argument with your significant other when you caught him looking or ogling at other woman? Do you feel inferior? Do you happen to time him? (Okay, let’s see how long is he going to look at her?) Are you simply mad? If yes, welcome to the club.
Oh Men!!! They ogle even with their wife, fiancée or girlfriends standing right beside them. Ogling women is just one of the natures of men. They are physically attracted by a woman. That is also one of the reason on why they fall for you. It’s either a woman’s boobs or their rounded butt, super long legs or God knows what else they are staring at. Or simply just because she’s hot!!
On a personal experience, I caught my boyfriend staring and looking at other girls. At first, it came about to me with a rational thinking, “Guys will be guys”. It is natural and it is alright if it is only for a while (just a few seconds). 3 seconds!! No!! It was not just a few seconds. He was looking. He was staring. At that moment, I was wondering to myself, “Am I not pretty enough for you?” Of course, I didn’t pursue the matter. I didn’t question him. Only that, I just got so frustrated that I didn’t want to talk to him for the next few days. I gave him the silence treatment. He was wondering what had happened obviously. (ermmm..serve you right!!)
During that “silence treatment” period, I started a forum asking my close friends on “Why do men like to ogle at other woman?” Woman being woman, it was quite a heated argument on the issue. For all I know, during those few days, I got to experienced on how does it feels like to be ogled by a man. The other woman perspective and views. I was walking alone when a man looked/ ogled/ stared at me while walking with a gorgeous woman besides him whom I assumed is his wife. As she realized that her husband was looking at me, she told him off. “Keep on looking at her and there will be no sex for you tonight” (hahaha..good one lady!) Not forgetting one of the married guys in my neighborhood who can’t keep his eyes off me each time he sees me. Only then, I start to realize that men are visual. They drool and they just won’t quit looking. Face it ladies, a well tanned, scantily female body is a thing of a beauty – to anyone. Better still if it is naked through the eyes.
I stared at myself in the mirror. I don’t wear plunging necklines; I am not comfortable in short mini skirts. I don’t create attention but still I am being ogled. We just have to accept the fact that MEN ARE DEFINITELY NOT BLIND. Here’s a little secret; one thing for sure, we will tend to look at the other woman and make comparison. Why is my boyfriend so interested in looking at her? My boobs are definitely bigger than hers. My butt is definitely rounder than hers. I am obviously prettier than her. So why is he still staring at her?
Oh yes!! Women look at other women, women read men’s magazine (I read my brother’s FHM/ Playboy magazines) Women watch porn. We are indeed very critical, self-conscious, inferior and insecure about our own body. We look out of curiosity. Maybe we are still reserved and embarrassed to ask or to even voice it out. Thus, we look and we compare.
So ladies, if this ever happen or is currently happening to you, go up to your man and ask him, “Baby, why are you staring at her?” I don’t like it. Maybe set a 3 seconds rule. Ogling less or equal to 3 seconds is fine. Anything more than that, just give him a knock on the head. (ahem..Referring to my friend, Mary). And guys, please the next time if you happen to hawk at a woman, kindly include your love one in the experience. You could say something like, “That woman is really pretty, but too bad she doesn’t have nice ass like you do” (wink to Shuhandy)
For all that I can think of, if men do not ogle at other woman, how would they know on how pretty their own girlfriend/ wife/ fiancée are? Shuhandy Tugi, my 3 seconds rule still applies to you….
Love,
Idah Noraidah
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