At 1700hrs sharp, family members from Andy’s side came to my residence as promised. Nobody knows how I feel. It was a mixture of feelings. My heart was palpitating and pumping hard. I swear I could feel it. Alhamdullillah, things went as planned.
After the “merisik”, an engagement ceremony is arranged between families. Since an engagement is regarded as a contract, no other man can ask for the engaged girl’s hand in marriage. Engagement is a common tradition and it is also present in Islam. By which, an engagement is also regarded as a sunnah. After the engagement ceremony, the intended bride and groom to be will make an attempt to set up a closer relationship between families. This would include getting to know each other’s relative. An engagement is only a promise to marry and the start of a marriage life. It is not fair to break a promise without a just reason. For all that happen in life, it needs to be justified as there will be a lot of obstacles and challenges that the couple will need to overcome. The most significant use of an engagement for both individuals is that it is a precautionary measure to a marriage base. It is considered less harmful that a probable divorce in the future. During the engagement ceremony, promises and gifts were exchanged. The engagement contract can be broken if there are serious signs and indication that the engaged couple will not be happy. There then to be a surge in stress level and this will eventually lead to more disagreements. If the engagement is broken, the parties can return the presents they have given to each other.
As seen in reality, something that is not paid attention to is that the parties regard themselves as married and violate the boundaries of privacy. It is not appropriate for the engaged couple to see each other, to be alone with one another until the marriage contract was signed. They are regarded as namahram to each other. if there is a necessity to talk or meet, it is always advisable to bring along a relative or friend. For being together or alone with a namahram woman will allow a third person to be involved. This would clearly be the devil. Oh yes, believe me, this is especially true. Only after the marriage contract being approved, it means that both are halal to each other.
I would like to thank everyone for being involved in this special and memorable event of my life. Thanks to my Fiance Andy and Family, my beloved families, Mak and Bapak, my brother and my sister, My closest and beautiful friends and the Mak Andam for donning me and making me look beautiful for the day. To Ibu, thanks for cooking for the ceremony…
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