This topic might be radical and liberal for those with a conservative mindset. The question is what if he (your husband) can’t perform in bed after marriage? Honestly, I do not have supporting data on what is the percentage of women facing this trapped and depressing situation. For all I know, I should start on a new survey soon on this.
This is a real issue in most marriages. What will you do if you discover on your wedding night that you husband that you married cannot perform at all in bed or not satisfying your needs? Will you divorce him immediately, continue to endure with the situation or look elsewhere for what is lacking? A friend of mine told me that her friend is currently seeking divorce from her husband as she is trapped in such situation. Sad rite! A marriage that was built based on love had to be ended/ annulled for such reasons. “My husband is unable to satisfy my needs”. Is that what you are going to say to the marriage counselor during the session? Somehow I find it weird that this has to be the way to end a marriage. Do we blame the guy on this? Was he being a liar by not telling the truth? In the first place, how would he know that he is not able to satisfy a woman’s needs? Personally, some of the ladies’ reaction was to “test drive” a guy! Pre-marital sex? Is that really a good suggestion? Will the relationship then be based on lust rather than love? A selfish thought would be to test drive a man and test him in bed. If all goes bad then you can explore him and see if it’s fixable. If not then, you can dump in time! How cruel can you be!
A recent hot topic was brought up on the radio by the deejays at Class 95. The issue was on “If a woman is unable to satisfy a man’s needs in bed, is it permissible for him to visit the prostitute?” 100% of the women will say No! For those who willingly say “Yes” are either stupid or dumb on the understanding the issue. Of course, it will be a No for me too (duh!). So if a topic was brought up to “help” needy man to satisfy their sexual needs, does this also apply to the ladies? Can we also seek for satisfaction outside if our men are unable to fulfill our needs and desire? Isn’t this call adultery and it’s obviously a sin that I wouldn’t want to get myself involve in.
What will you do then? Will you voice it out to him on what you are going through? Or are you letting yourself to be trapped in the situation? By telling a man that, will it bruise his ego? How is he able to accept it? What will be his reactions? I believed that man are physical human beings which means that they fall in love physically with you first followed by your inner self beauty. A woman is just the opposite of a man. Given a situation where a man was introduced to two women. It is obvious that he will fall for someone who is well-endowed in physique rather than a pretty face. Agree? Yes? No? While in a woman’s mind, our thoughts are about, “what is his profession?”, “is he a family man?”, “Will he be respectful towards my parents?” All those good questions and the curiosity on knowing the man better. However, for a man himself, his thoughts would probably be on sex – tits and pussy. How convenient! I put myself as an example to prove this fact. I caught men looking directly at my breast when they are talking to me. Does it excite a person so much like seriously? Come on guys, you are just being too physical! When I caught them looking at the wrong place, their reaction was, “that’s a nice necklace that you are wearing today” (Okay, thanks!)
I believe that there will always be room for discussion for such things between couples. Love is nothing without romance and if it is lacking, it is our responsibility to talk it out. Yes, it will sound weird. There will be times where there will be complete silence but somebody got to do the talking. By letting it be, doesn’t seem to make sense as it will cause a person to be more depressed. If a man or a husband can’t seem to perform well, do your duty as a wife to encourage him to visit the doctor whom are specialize in “male issues”. That if “toys” does not seem to work for you. Learn to share your feelings and discuss on what would be the best solution to overcome this. There are a lot of help out there. You will need to support your man hoping and praying that the “tiger” will wake up soon! If it doesn’t work, try other ways to achieve sexual satisfaction. There is more to life than just erection! (That’s for sure!)
A divorce should not even be considered as an option when this happen. Do you know that a man can develop erectile dysfunction just like that? So are you going to divorce him if he stops performing maximally when it is not his fault rather than seeking help? Is it fine then for a man to leave a woman when she develops certain gynecological problems that make sex uncomfortable rather than see her through it? I would definitely need my man to be beside me through up and downs. The most important thing is that I love the man of my life and no matter what we will have to stand by them. If not, why do we even bother to take marriage vows? That’s what love is! This is a great test to love and to ask for a divorce based on this is such a pity!
P.S: “Onion soup sustains. The process of making it is somewhat like the process of learning to love. It requires commitment, extraordinary effort, time, and will make you cry.”
This is a real issue in most marriages. What will you do if you discover on your wedding night that you husband that you married cannot perform at all in bed or not satisfying your needs? Will you divorce him immediately, continue to endure with the situation or look elsewhere for what is lacking? A friend of mine told me that her friend is currently seeking divorce from her husband as she is trapped in such situation. Sad rite! A marriage that was built based on love had to be ended/ annulled for such reasons. “My husband is unable to satisfy my needs”. Is that what you are going to say to the marriage counselor during the session? Somehow I find it weird that this has to be the way to end a marriage. Do we blame the guy on this? Was he being a liar by not telling the truth? In the first place, how would he know that he is not able to satisfy a woman’s needs? Personally, some of the ladies’ reaction was to “test drive” a guy! Pre-marital sex? Is that really a good suggestion? Will the relationship then be based on lust rather than love? A selfish thought would be to test drive a man and test him in bed. If all goes bad then you can explore him and see if it’s fixable. If not then, you can dump in time! How cruel can you be!
A recent hot topic was brought up on the radio by the deejays at Class 95. The issue was on “If a woman is unable to satisfy a man’s needs in bed, is it permissible for him to visit the prostitute?” 100% of the women will say No! For those who willingly say “Yes” are either stupid or dumb on the understanding the issue. Of course, it will be a No for me too (duh!). So if a topic was brought up to “help” needy man to satisfy their sexual needs, does this also apply to the ladies? Can we also seek for satisfaction outside if our men are unable to fulfill our needs and desire? Isn’t this call adultery and it’s obviously a sin that I wouldn’t want to get myself involve in.
What will you do then? Will you voice it out to him on what you are going through? Or are you letting yourself to be trapped in the situation? By telling a man that, will it bruise his ego? How is he able to accept it? What will be his reactions? I believed that man are physical human beings which means that they fall in love physically with you first followed by your inner self beauty. A woman is just the opposite of a man. Given a situation where a man was introduced to two women. It is obvious that he will fall for someone who is well-endowed in physique rather than a pretty face. Agree? Yes? No? While in a woman’s mind, our thoughts are about, “what is his profession?”, “is he a family man?”, “Will he be respectful towards my parents?” All those good questions and the curiosity on knowing the man better. However, for a man himself, his thoughts would probably be on sex – tits and pussy. How convenient! I put myself as an example to prove this fact. I caught men looking directly at my breast when they are talking to me. Does it excite a person so much like seriously? Come on guys, you are just being too physical! When I caught them looking at the wrong place, their reaction was, “that’s a nice necklace that you are wearing today” (Okay, thanks!)
I believe that there will always be room for discussion for such things between couples. Love is nothing without romance and if it is lacking, it is our responsibility to talk it out. Yes, it will sound weird. There will be times where there will be complete silence but somebody got to do the talking. By letting it be, doesn’t seem to make sense as it will cause a person to be more depressed. If a man or a husband can’t seem to perform well, do your duty as a wife to encourage him to visit the doctor whom are specialize in “male issues”. That if “toys” does not seem to work for you. Learn to share your feelings and discuss on what would be the best solution to overcome this. There are a lot of help out there. You will need to support your man hoping and praying that the “tiger” will wake up soon! If it doesn’t work, try other ways to achieve sexual satisfaction. There is more to life than just erection! (That’s for sure!)
A divorce should not even be considered as an option when this happen. Do you know that a man can develop erectile dysfunction just like that? So are you going to divorce him if he stops performing maximally when it is not his fault rather than seeking help? Is it fine then for a man to leave a woman when she develops certain gynecological problems that make sex uncomfortable rather than see her through it? I would definitely need my man to be beside me through up and downs. The most important thing is that I love the man of my life and no matter what we will have to stand by them. If not, why do we even bother to take marriage vows? That’s what love is! This is a great test to love and to ask for a divorce based on this is such a pity!
P.S: “Onion soup sustains. The process of making it is somewhat like the process of learning to love. It requires commitment, extraordinary effort, time, and will make you cry.”
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