Yesterday was our date day (It was supposed to be on every Saturday actually) and Andy planned a movie date for us. It has been a while since we watched a movie together.
“Ok let you see the birds” – from Andy text message.
“Ok thanks B”
How sweet! He knows how fetish and engrossed I am with birds especially owls and parrots. This mangives in to my demands and watched it with me full-heartedly. RIO was entertaining and fascinating. It tickled my funny bone. I was laughing whole heartedly not minding my irritated and pissed Fiancé who was beside me. There is always a reason if he is irritated or pissed. Firstly, it’s me! Or maybe he is just tired giving me attention. It is always about me! However in this case, it was not. We loved everything about the movie except for the screaming, long piercing cry and screeching from the children in the theatre. Parents don’t seem to care or even bother to discipline their children to just concentrate on the movie rather than being such a nuisance! How do you handle such situation? Do you confront the parents? Or would you rather look for the usher or the manager-in-charged? Or worst still do you just let it be?
The last time we were turned off while watching a movie was in Batam where the kids were running and shouting in the cinema. Of’ course, the parents don’t give a damn of what was happening. We chose to keep mum about it and try to concentrate on the show. It was bloody irritating!
• Stay calm and do not get carried away when your child misbehaves. Avoid yelling and screaming, since this can teach your child that it is all right to lose control if you don't get your way. If you feel like things are escalating too much, then take a break until you can regain your composure.
• Avoid too much criticism. Make sure your child understands that it is the misbehavior that you are unhappy with and that you will always love him.
• Avoid too much praise. You don't need to be continuously praising your child, especially for routine activities, because it will make your comments less effective.
• Don't focus on negatives all of the time, especially when offering positive reinforcement. It is much better to say ‘I like that you put all of your clothes away,' instead of saying ‘I like that, for once, you finally got around to putting your clothes away without my asking.'
• Avoid physical punishment. Spanking has never been shown to be more effective than other forms of punishment and will make your child more aggressive and angry.
• Remember to give rewards and praise for good behavior.
• Understand the difference between rewards and bribes. A reward is something your child receives after he has done something, while a bribe is given beforehand, to try and motivate your child to do what you want. Bribes should be avoided.
• Be a good role model.
• Most importantly, provide your child with a safe environment in which he feels secure and loved.
P.S: Is it really so difficult?
“Ok let you see the birds” – from Andy text message.
“Ok thanks B”
How sweet! He knows how fetish and engrossed I am with birds especially owls and parrots. This man
The last time we were turned off while watching a movie was in Batam where the kids were running and shouting in the cinema. Of’ course, the parents don’t give a damn of what was happening. We chose to keep mum about it and try to concentrate on the show. It was bloody irritating!
In the future, if my children were to misbehave in the cinema, we will just walk out and leave…Seriously!
Important Reminders about Discipline:
• Stay calm and do not get carried away when your child misbehaves. Avoid yelling and screaming, since this can teach your child that it is all right to lose control if you don't get your way. If you feel like things are escalating too much, then take a break until you can regain your composure.
• Avoid too much criticism. Make sure your child understands that it is the misbehavior that you are unhappy with and that you will always love him.
• Avoid too much praise. You don't need to be continuously praising your child, especially for routine activities, because it will make your comments less effective.
• Don't focus on negatives all of the time, especially when offering positive reinforcement. It is much better to say ‘I like that you put all of your clothes away,' instead of saying ‘I like that, for once, you finally got around to putting your clothes away without my asking.'
• Avoid physical punishment. Spanking has never been shown to be more effective than other forms of punishment and will make your child more aggressive and angry.
• Remember to give rewards and praise for good behavior.
• Understand the difference between rewards and bribes. A reward is something your child receives after he has done something, while a bribe is given beforehand, to try and motivate your child to do what you want. Bribes should be avoided.
• Be a good role model.
• Most importantly, provide your child with a safe environment in which he feels secure and loved.
P.S: Is it really so difficult?
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