What will be a suitable or eligible age to be in love and in a relationship? It is subjective as different individual share their own views and thinking mindset. As a young teenager, I was curious and inquisitive of the topic on love. I was being surrounded with friends whom were constantly talking about relationship, intimacy and dates. The word SEX was norm for them but as for me, the word was a taboo (used to). Those regular talks about hickeys, kisses and affection made me feel left out. For I know that, no one in school was interested to ask me out or to be in a steady relationship with me and dealing with peer pressure was one of the issues while growing up. I remembered an occasion where all the boys in school invited most of the girls to an event which was planned by them and I was excluded. To make me feel worst, I was part of the discussion too. Maybe it is just me, maybe I am not pretty enough for them. Oh well, what do you expect? I was a geek back then.
As I grew older, I was desperate to be in love. I want to know how it feels to be loved. At 19, I fell in love and again at 24. Though it was a long term relationship, but there was no talks and discussion about the future. It was probably those relationships where I needed someone to be there for me. It was a mundane process of meeting up, dating and those redundant conversations on the phone. It was thrilling and exciting but until when will all this last. There was no planning, no urgency, no commitments and purely just an immaturity enjoyment. In short, no string attached.
As expected, the relationships didn’t last. It left me broken hearted and depressed. Till one day, love came unexpectedly.
“Love is like a butterfly, it settles upon you when you least expects it...”
They say third is a charm. It really is. I didn’t have to look for him, he was sent to me. He is part of the plan called destiny. Ours was a speed date and he was my primary school mate. Childhood lovers!. After two weeks of dating, he voiced out his intention of knowing me better which I accepted. At two months of dating, we discussed and began making plans on marriage and the future. While others will have their own assumptions on how rash our decision were, we continued to make plans on getting a flat together. Yes, we did. We proceeded with it anyway. At a certain age, where maturity takes over, that is when you know that you are ready for a commitment. When you are prepared in holding responsibility and shouldering the burden of life, you may choose to take the next step forward. As for us, we chose to proceed to the next chapter...
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